What is Understood as “Identity”?

Identity refers to:

A healthy ‘I’ (in the sense of a psychological ‘ego’ as an executive function of

the human psyche)

With my own free will

With all my senses

In contact with my body

With my own feelings

With my own words

In all my relationships

What Does a Healthy ‘I’ Mean in This Context?

Being present, but not dominating

Being flexible in altering situations

Being realistic about what is possible and what is not

Being able to accept surviving parts and traumatized parts of my psyche

Taking responsibility for a healthy identity-development

Having a free will

Psychotrauma may result in:

Looking for substitute-identities (e.g. a professional role to hide behind)

Inappropriately clinging to another person (e.g. to a partner, a child, a

therapist, an ‘authority’)

Hiding one’s I behind a ‘We’ (relationship, family, company, ‘system’, nation


Identifying with the behavior of perpetrators and acting out against yourself

or others later on.

re-defining oneself (e.g. ‘It didn’t affect me!’)

self-denial (e.g. ‘I was not beaten / sexually abused!’)

disengaging the ‘I’ from the body (e.g. ‘My body is sick!’ ‘My body needs to be fixed by a specialist.’)

dissolving the ‘I’ (e.g. through drug usage or withdrawing into a state of confusion)

individuals who split into personalities, who experience this as normal and their ‘true identity’

Men and women turning into functioning machines, without any connection to their healthy ‘I’ and their bodies.

A Healthy Identity::

Is the sum total of all conscious and unconscious life experiences

Exhibits the capability and capacity of allowing the truth of life to flow through, feeling it, acknowledging it, including all of it as life’s messy glory.